Dear Bunmi,
I lost my wife a few years ago in an unfortunate
motor accident and had made up my mind to
remarry. We were married for over 20 years and
she was a good mother to our three boys. Late
last year, I was introduced to a divorced lady at
a close friend’s birthday party and we hit things
off right away. The love-making was good and I
was already toying with the idea of proposing
marriage.
Then, all of a sudden, her attitude changed.
Thinking she wanted a re-assurance, I had a
talk with her that she had my undivided love
and I would do anything to make her happy.
You can then imagine how shocked I was when
she said all she wanted was the physical side of
the relationship. That she had no wish to re-
marry and that I had better start shopping for a
wife-material.
What type of a woman behaves like this? It
would have been understandable if she were a
frivolous teenager, but she’s close to 40. What
are our women turning into?
Alaba,
by e-mail.
Dear Alaba,
Women often feel that they are the only ones
that are used and dumped by men, but your
experience shows that some women can be
ruthless in the pursuit of what they want.
What to you was a big romance was obviously a
casual fling to this woman. Now she’s telling
you to get a life! Lasting relationships are built
on friendship and shared ideas and dreams, not
just love making.
Without these feelings, you soon realise you’re
saddled with someone you don’t really know
after the love-making cools.
Keep your dignity, try to wash this woman off
your life and look for another woman out there
eager to make a commitment.
I lost my wife a few years ago in an unfortunate
motor accident and had made up my mind to
remarry. We were married for over 20 years and
she was a good mother to our three boys. Late
last year, I was introduced to a divorced lady at
a close friend’s birthday party and we hit things
off right away. The love-making was good and I
was already toying with the idea of proposing
marriage.
Then, all of a sudden, her attitude changed.
Thinking she wanted a re-assurance, I had a
talk with her that she had my undivided love
and I would do anything to make her happy.
You can then imagine how shocked I was when
she said all she wanted was the physical side of
the relationship. That she had no wish to re-
marry and that I had better start shopping for a
wife-material.
What type of a woman behaves like this? It
would have been understandable if she were a
frivolous teenager, but she’s close to 40. What
are our women turning into?
Alaba,
by e-mail.
Dear Alaba,
Women often feel that they are the only ones
that are used and dumped by men, but your
experience shows that some women can be
ruthless in the pursuit of what they want.
What to you was a big romance was obviously a
casual fling to this woman. Now she’s telling
you to get a life! Lasting relationships are built
on friendship and shared ideas and dreams, not
just love making.
Without these feelings, you soon realise you’re
saddled with someone you don’t really know
after the love-making cools.
Keep your dignity, try to wash this woman off
your life and look for another woman out there
eager to make a commitment.